Inner Practice: Four Mantras of True Love - Fourth Mantra

In the first mantra of true love, we find ourselves and offer our true presence first.

In the second mantra, we acknowledge the presence of the other person.

In the third mantra, we practice to be aware and mindful that the person we love is actually suffering when they appear to be not.

In the fourth mantra, it is said to be the most difficult yet most powerful in true love.

Fourth mantra:

“Darling, I suffer. Please help.”

The people we love most are the ones we hurt most.

Many times, the people that cause us to suffer are the ones we care for and truly love. We got to be so familiar and close to each other that we started to take each other for granted. We lose respect for each other. We shout, scream, demand in the most ridiculous way to the ones we hold close to our hearts. Yet we do not notice what we are doing and how much abuse we are committing.

The fourth mantra is practiced when you yourself suffer and you believe that the person you love is the one who has caused you to suffer. Only five words. Yet many people cannot say it because of the pride and ego in their hearts.

If the abuse was committed by other people that you do not love as much, you will not suffer so much. But if it is coming from the person you love, you will feel deeply hurt. And if you really love him or her, when you suffer like that, you have to ask for help. You have to overcome your pride.

Because if love does not involve you yourself in the equation, it is not true love.

Without loving yourself, you cannot overflow this love to another.

In true love, there is no place for pride. Please do not fall into the same trap. When you are hurt by the person you love, when you suffer and believe that your suffering has been caused by the person you love the most, practice the fourth mantra.

If you really consider her to be the one you love the most in this life, you have to do that. When the other person hears your words, she will come back to herself and practice looking deeply. Then both parties will be able to sort things out, reconcile, and dissolve the wrong perception.